One trait that I will never regret if it’s in me, it’s that I have the capacity to ✨give up on someone✨.

I always believe that there will be a time when I will give up and leave someone because he has always injected poison into me. And I really need to leave him.

Sometimes we think that we feel sorry for people with problems, we feel sorry for them if we stay with them alone, and sometimes we think that if they’re not around us, we think that if we stay with them, they’ll see us, they’ll think about us.

We think that if we’re next to them, we won’t stop to listen to them, we become their garbage can, we hope that they won’t fall into the same hole, that we won’t stop by their side or advise them. We think that someday maybe they will be guided by us being by their side.

We think that with all of that, they will understand one thing that we have told them that we always explain, but they don’t understand. And they keep making the same mistakes over and over again.

With one hope.. That they will change. But honestly, that’s not going to happen.

I always believe even they want to go back to the same hole.. That’s their business with their trauma pattern. Because I know and I believe that trauma patterns can only be broken by having their own awareness.

Those who never realize our presence are not because we lack effort.. it’s not because we are not enough.. But yes, it’s because they don’t feel enough of themselves and it’s not our territory, it’s not our business to help like those who are very consistent in asking to be understood, but don’t want to understand us and I’m sure it’s not our work that can’t understand what they want.

But because it’s not fair for us.

And all we ask for is justice.

And the question is, why do we ask for justice from people who can’t provide fairness?

Like another example,

Those who keep on stirring up emotions through small things like that. It’s not because we are sensitive, right? But because for us small things are mathers and they don’t choose to understand that small things matter to us.

Yes, it’s the same as shouting for help from the wall, I’ll give you another example like those who betrayed us. It’s not because we make them unhappy, right? But simply because they are not happy with their own lives.

Those who betray us do not mean that we must never back down from showing them. There are people like us who are loyal, who want to fight for them, even though it’s their job to realize and make us stay.

It’s their job to appreciate us. It’s their job.

I do believe people come and go.

The one who will stay with us the longest is only ourselves.

For me, if I’m close to someone and I always have a song in my heart that questions why he/she is like that, or why did he/she talk like that to me, I simply say that that person is not my destiny.

Suppose he makes me go home feeling overthinking. Second guessing confused let alone triggered. Anyway, I went home with a feeling or I don’t feel good after meeting him.

And I really believe from the bottom of my heart. The most effective medicine I have to do to stop this all is; Give up on them.

Yes, giving up on themes is the remedy.

Sometimes without realizing it, we really like to inject poison slowly slowly slowly and continue to inject poison into ourselves. :)